I’m good at stuffing. Stuffing drawers. Stuffing cabinets. Stuffing closets. AND, yes, stuffing my feelings. Throw it all in and hurry and slam it shut before it falls out or comes undone. Just, out of sight, out of mind.
That’s. Not. Healthy.
So, to be honest..it took me writing out my testimony to realize some of the reasons that I stuff. Some are just hereditary..and some are because of choices made.
So, after realizing some truths, I began to make some changes.
And..I began to change.
Now, I still fight the battle of stuffing. No, I’m not a hoarder by any means.I have no problem throwing away stuff. I just tend to get overwhelmed and want to forget about it. That’s the case with organizing my home and my emotions.
You can’t break a lifelong habit overnight. It takes intentionality….To make healthy changes. It takes work.
When it comes to being unorganized…I found that admitting I can’t do it alone helped me a lot! I asked for help from someone near and dear to me..(she knows who she is). She’s a natural at this sort of thing. So, we organized and MAN, is life getting easier! I can focus better. It is awesome!
Now, as far as the emotional stuffing goes…That is a work in progress. There’s a thin line we have to be careful of. To still bridle the tongue and glorify God in everything.
To keep in mind that making a big deal about feelings…makes it ABOUT ME…not God.
To trust HIM in every situation and at the same time to deal with emotions, hurts, and feelings instead of stuffing them down. Pretending that they don’t exist. That’s. NOT. Healthy. But trusting HIM and giving it ALL to HIM to handle…That’s WAY BETTER than stuffing.
Psalm 28:7 ~ The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped.
So…I’m still a work in progress. Learning what to stuff and what not to stuff. Learning that everything has a place and that includes emotions.
I challenge you to look at yourself…Are you a stuffer? Or are you an exploder? Lysa Terkeurst’s book, Unglued, is a fantastic book.. She talks about the four reaction types. Most of us are more than just one type of reactor. Here is her blog post where she discusses the four types.
I’m so glad to know that God is not finished with me yet.
Philippians 1:6 ~ being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
Until Next Time,
4 Replies to “That’s. Not. Healthy.”
Excellent post, Heather. I have certainly been guilty of the emotional stuffing (as are many men, I think) at times.The end results of doing so are not good, to say the least. I hope this article is a wake-up call for the many who need to hear it.
Thank you, Jay!
I really needed to read this today, thanks Heather! 🙂
Thank you, Robyn! Glad it helped you..