Can I speak bluntly for a moment?
Women need to stop wearing masks and stop assuming that everyone else has it all together. We need to be real and transparent and share the good the bad and the ugly. (No, I don’t mean to rant or tell all.. Face it, nobody wants to hear it all) I’m saying share the real you, not just the “highlight reel” or the “photoshopped version”. And we also need to quit comparing what we assume others are to how we think of ourselves.
None of us are perfect. None of us have it all together. Just because we have a great photo that looks like we do..doesn’t mean it’s real. Or maybe it is at that moment. What about after? Is it always picture perfect?
And I’m not saying that a great photoshopped photo is bad! Trust me.. I love them. I’m just saying that if we want to reach other women for Christ, then we might need to let them see that we don’t have it all together all of the time either.
How can one relate to someone that pretends to be perfect? Nobody is perfect. Nobody has it all together. Why do women,especially, believe the lies that we tell ourselves? Why do we compare our wrong thoughts about ourselves to what we assume to be real about another woman?
What if instead of assuming, and comparing, and being prideful, that we were real?
It is a pride issue ladies.
Call it what it is.
You can’t pull a weed from the top and expect it not to grow back. You have to dig deep and pull the weed out at the root.
And I’m not saying that we should vomit negativity. I’m saying that we need to deal with ourselves. Deep digging. Get real with the root. Take off the masks. Stop assuming. Quit comparing. Walk in faith.
Walk in belief.
The belief that God is enough and that he doesn’t make junk.
The belief that not every other woman has it all together.
Yet, if they do have it more together, then what is their secret?
I’ll tell you the secret. It’s found in Philippians. The secret to contentment is belief and faith in Jesus.
Paul found the secret to being content.
Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:11-13 NLT)
The truth is that we are all dealing with our own insecurities. Yet, we don’t have to be in bondage to those insecurities. God doesn’t talk to us the way we talk to ourselves. Why do we?!
Faith is the secret.
Faith that Jesus is enough. That Jesus provides all that we need and at just the right time.
And honestly, we as women, need each other.
If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. (Ecclesiastes 4:10 NLT)
Maybe, just maybe, if we would stop assuming and take off the masks, we would see that we are not all that different.
To me picture perfect is showing the real you.
The real you (or ME) that messes up. Fails daily. That Desperately needs Jesus every single second of every day.